I hurt StinkyMan's feelings.
I was in the middle of pouring various bowls and cups of milk when I realized that I had forgotten to complete Curly's reading log. As I quickly finished filling it in and signing it, StinkyMan decided he would pour his own milk.
"NO!" I said, but it was too late. I took the cup from him and he said proudly "But look, Mommy, I didn't spill any!"
"I know. I see. But I thought that you would. Next time wait for me okay?" and I turned back to the errant homework assignment.
All of a sudden there is wailing behind me. StinkyMan is devastated.
And I realize my error.
Instead of praising him for a job well done and for trying to help, I chastised him for what COULD have happened, but didn't. His heart was hurt. I had crushed him.
I hugged him and told him I was sorry, that I didn't mean to make him sad. But he cried the cry of a broken hearted boy.
Peanut asked "StinkyMan sad?"
"Yes" I said "I hurt his feelings."
"He has an owie?"
"Yes" I answered. "He has an owie."
"Oooooh." She understands the seriousness of an owie. "StinkyMan need a band aid." After all, bandaids heal everything.
"I think he just needs hugs" I said as her brother still whimpers in my lap.
"And a kiss!" and she leans in and gives him one.
"That was nice, Peanut" I say. "StinkyMan, I was going to have some cereal for breakfast" Which I was not, but I would fix this. "Will you pour my milk?"
Sniffle.
Sniffle.
Sniffle.
And a slow nod. "Yes. I can do it."
"I know you can!" I said enthusiastically. "You are a good pourer."
And so we trooped back into the kitchen, poured a bowl of cereal and he poured my milk. And he did great.
Next time I will also try to do great the first time. It's a good thing that sometimes in life we do get a do-over.
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Ahh, this totally made me tear up. Been there. Great job on the do-over!
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